armor. We look to our marriage partners to give us a lifetime of pure bliss as they meet all our needs and strengthen our weaknesses. But this is not reality! If we let our emotions run over us, we marry someone with the potential for fulfilling our mental fantasies. We cannot accept them for who they are. Instead we dream of making them what we want them to be. Then there is the intoxication of sexual attraction. We may not know how to separate love from sex. We think sex substitutes for emotional